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NEW RULE; the Big Idea/ Strategy to help with this new world we live in:
Stretch your self-esteem muscle.
Why it’s important; benefits both personally and professionally:
Self-esteem plays a role and is involved in almost everything you do – your health, your relationships, your business or your job, etc.
How to accomplish the above:
Self-esteem is a choice you can make and then you can turn it into a habit. Think of it as a muscle that needs to be trained and stretched on a regular basis. Perform daily exercises to start increasing your self-esteem and watch yourself-confidence soar.
Favorite Quote for this Episode:
“Loving who you are is self-empowering.”
Do not compare yourself to others … focus on being the best you can be.
Never focus on one negative thing or any one shortcoming you perceive you have.
Give yourself a break. Release Perfectionism and throw out the word guilt. “Wellness isn’t about deprivation and it’s not about perfection. It is about pointing yourself in the direction of growth, training yourself to get comfortable with your highest potential, and then taking small steps to support that shift. It’s about showing up for yourself, day by day, and then one day finding that you’ve undergone a transformation.” Kathy Freston
Do not give in to negative thoughts – Pessimism can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Never, ever give away your power to past people or incidents. Any time an old “tape” plays in your head, picture a stop sign or a big red flashing light and refocus your thoughts on something positive you like about yourself.
Take a Self-Esteem Inventory.
As far as any past mistakes, forgive yourself and use them as an opportunity for learning and for growth.
Set realistic expectations for yourself and for your relationships.
Make yourself a priority and learn how to say no.
Look at your self-esteem inventory and recognize and embrace your positive qualities.
Compliment yourself daily and create a daily affirmation or daily mantra.
Take some YOU time each and every day and do something nice for yourself. Tap into your inner child and play. A bubble bath, a walk in the park, reading a pleasure book, listening to music … so many choices. YOU choose – it’s all about YOU! I think that this is so important that I wrote a book about it. You can find it on Amazon at: Little Black Book of Sassy and Blissful Suggestions
Stretch your comfort zone daily … You need to be willing to change things up and do them differently. Every time you do something where you stretch your comfort zone, you become a little stronger, a little more empowered, more able to tackle what life throws your way head on. It’s how people become the people they’ve always wanted to become, by taking risks and trying things they wouldn’t ordinarily do.
Eat healthy, exercise, work on managing your stress levels and get enough sleep – you will feel better and because you are doing something positive for yourself, it will increase your self-esteem.
Smile – changes blood flow to the brain and can actually make you feel happier and relieve tension. A smile sets off chemical and physical reaction within your mind and body – releases endorphins that boost your mood.
Do something you are passionate about. It will give you a sense of fulfillment and purpose and kick your self-esteem up a few notches.
Celebrate… Celebrate… Celebrate… each and every success along the way. Small successes are equally important to the larger ones.
Stretch your self-esteem each and every day.
Holli: Hey Morgan, thanks for the introduction. Welcome to New Rules for your Life and your Business. The podcast that is dedicated to helping you cut through the chaos so you can experience personal and professional growth. You will hear stories, insights and new rules to live by from myself and my guests that are born out of their life experiences. The stories are inspiring and motivating and I encourage you to take at least one golden nugget of each episode and apply it to your life or your business. The topic for today is self esteem. I will be speaking on the topic and some of the highlights in this episode are
That and more today on the New Rules podcast.
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Holli: We’ve made it through 25 episodes? Wow! I am so hoping that you are taking a golden nugget and applying it after every one of the episodes and that really it is helping you to improve your life and your business. Again I’d love to hear from you. What changes you’ve made. What worked. What didn’t work and perhaps what you can share can help somebody else, truly learn a new rule for their life or their business.
So at this point I wanted to hop in and do an episode because well 25. That’s a lot right? We’ve really made it this far. I’m thrilled to still have you all here. Now, I went back and I was starting to review the past shows and I what really sticks out for me with everything? You know how can I bring this all together? Is to just bring you an episode and a new rule today. I started looking back at …okay….
How can you take the responsibility for your life, how to get involved in the new media, getting a return on your investment, a return on your life. How to negotiate. How to embrace change… never ever giving up, no matter what challenges you face etc etc. And one factor started really staring me in the eye. And that was you’ve got to have a really good self esteem to accomplish any of those.
And then recently… a matter of fact this last week, I had a conversation that revealed something that I’d heard and I truly took to heart. Is that we all perform to the level of our self esteem. And boy did that spark some interest. So it really got me thinking that everything does come back to your self esteem. And it does play a huge role in almost everything that we do. Whether it’s our business or we have a job. Our health. Our relationships. Because if our self esteem is not good it can really negatively affect virtually every facet of your life. Think about it. People with high self esteem, seem to find it easier to make friends. They tend to have better relationships. They feel happier. They deal with mistakes and disappointments and failures easier. And they’re more likely to stick with something until they succeed. They don’t give up. And also I’ve heard that people with a high self esteem do take more risks. So, the new rule for today-
Announcer: Today’s new rule-
Holli: Is to Stretch Your Self Esteem Muscle. Now, self esteem is a choice you can make and then you can turn it into a habit. Just think of it as a muscle, that needs to be trained and stretched on a regular basis. So before I start jumping into some strategies that I think could really help you stretch your self esteem muscle, let’s just talk about a few of the things that you should not do.
So keep that in the back of your mind if it is something that you need to work on… you know, contact me. Or if it’s something that is really deep you may want to contact a counselor and really set up some sessions and get through it. Because, we really have to start thinking more positive. Really working on you know on getting up and really seeing the day ahead of us as well ….. that glass is ¾ full and what a wonderful day this is going to be. The last do not-
Let’s talk about things that you can do. Let’s talk about some strategies that you can do to really increase your self esteem. In order to fix anything, in order to increase it, you have to become aware. So what I’d like you to do is-
So let’s talk about some strategies now that you can do to really start stretching this self esteem muscle. You’re going to start with small steps so that, you little by little can gain confidence. And this will really make a huge difference for you. If you listen back to my first podcast where I talked about how just a tiny little adjustment can really change your life. It truly can. So start everyday making these little steps to really stretch this muscle.
I think this next one is so important that I actually wrote a book about it.
Another thing that I really encourage you to do is to–
That also will just stretch that little muscle more and more. So all these things that I am going through, may be a lot. But if you pick one and focus on one at a time, make that a part of your life then you can add another one. And little by little you’ll have all these tools in use and you’ll be really on your way to getting your self esteem 100% where it needs to be.
Now just to review just some general rules but that really do contribute to your self esteem. And I know that you’ve heard these a million times-
The other thing you can do every day, is –
So there’s so much more we can talk about as far as increasing your self esteem, but I don’t want to get too lengthy here…. you know another time we can talk about dressing for success, good posture, hygiene, giving back….because, boy does that help you feel so much better. And so many other things you can do when you’re at a business meeting, or at a convention, or something where, you can just make yourself stand out and really feel like a million dollars.
I’m going to close with this-
So find something that you’re passionate about and work on it. Because if you’re passionate about it you’re going to do a great job and boy will that really stretch your self esteem. So think about that and if you have a problem finding something that you’re passionate about or if you are not sure which direction you’re wanting to go in, feel free to just send me a quick email.
Announcer: Favorite quote.
Holli: The quote for today is “Loving who you are is self empowering”. When you trust yourself and you take 100% responsibility for making the needed changes you really become so empowered. And when you’re empowered you have the confidence to tackle whatever you want in life and in your business. Now every time you have accomplished something, you have written it down in that journal, I want you to celebrate. Celebrate, celebrate, celebrate, each and every success along the way. Small successes are equally important to the larger ones. Again this is like just doing something nice for yourself each and every day. But again this comes when you have accomplished something. You’re going to have a mini celebration.
So I really thank you for spending the time with me today. I know I threw a lot of different strategies and tactics out to you, as far as stretching that self esteem muscle. And if you need any assistance again, I am just an email or a phone call away…happy to assist. If you need help with stress management, I work a lot with creative visualization. While we’re relaxing your body, that also helps increase your self esteem quite a bit. So I thank you so much for being here. And if you like this episode, please consider leaving a 5 star review over in iTunes…and I’ll mention it in a future episode. It’s a way to really thank you for taking the time to do that. The reason that I ask is that when you do leave a review and download an episode, it really makes it easier for others like you to find. A big thank you today to Dora Bessie. I am humbled by her compliment of saying the interviews are motivational, inspirational and insightful. And that the guests are great examples of people living the possible dream through resourcefulness, persistence and grit. The podcast presents different perspectives on how to grow to be self actualizing. Thank you so much Dora Bessie and again thank you all for being here today and sharing your gift of time with me. Have a great week and remember, to always have a positive mindset, so you can live healthier and wealthier and happier with passion. This is Holli signing off for today. But before we go, I am stretching my self esteem muscle on a daily basis. And what I want to ask is “Are you?”
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